We live in a fast-paced world, wrapped up with expectations and deadlines, consumed by technology and surrounded by the distractions of materialism and politics and status.
It can be easy to feel disconnected, cut off, isolated, alone amongst a sea of people.
The outer world can’t provide us with the sense of connection that we so desire, that journey can only be taken by ourselves. Blogs, books and seminars can give you a rough guide or reflections and insights but they can’t take you to that place of connection.
You must be the pioneer, uncovering the landscapes as they unfold.
Reconnect with Yourself
Feeling connected and whole isn’t all about socializing with others, sometimes it’s as simple as remembering who you are and who you want to be. Reconnecting with the idealistic vision of yourself and living it out in the real world.
When you forget your values or disregard them in everyday life, it slowly starts to evaporate your sense of self. You will forget who you are and what you stand for, what’s important to you, what makes you angry, what fires you up, what motivates you.
Out on the ocean, you may have felt drowned in a storm of expectations and opinions, but now, you can see the horizon, and you can start to make little adjustments to correct your course. It won’t always be clear and sometimes you may even have to change your original destination, but each tiny adjustment is one step closer in the right direction.
Sometimes all you need is time alone, to reflect, to introspect, to connect. Being alone allows you to cultivate a relaxed, calm mind without external input or pressures, which lets you see with clear eyes and a full heart.
Spend Time in Nature
The natural world is where our souls come from and where they will lay. We are connected to every tree, every leaf, every wave in the ocean. We’re not who we think we are, and perhaps we’re not even what we think at all.
Nature can be a conduit into gaining a truer perspective of where you fit into this universe. Seeing the magnificence and immensity of the ocean always makes me feel like there is so much more than just what is going on in my head.
“How wonderful it is, to watch that big ball of fire melt into the ocean – and the only light that is left like a candle…”Knockin’ on Heaven’s Door (movie)
Embrace your Emotions
Your emotions are real.
Maybe that statement sounds blatantly obvious but I think it’s often not understood or accepted in our everyday life. You have emotions for a reason. They are the lighthouses for your mind, a guide to peace and connection.
We often label our emotions as silly or weak or irrelevant. But by pushing our emotions aside and labelling them, you are only pushing yourself further away from the truth.
To accept the truth we must move through our emotions not against them, that’s how we will find the connection we seek.
You work so hard to fix yourself, but maybe what you need isn’t another tactic, another book, another five-step plan. Maybe, you don’t need to be fixed. Maybe, what’s really holding you back is the idea that you need to be fixed.Vironika Tugaleva